Making Up For Lost Time

I have struggled with consistency most all of my adult years and have been working feverishly to change that lately. I believe I’m making good progress. So, to my faithful readers, I apologize for the break or lack in posting-my life’s been moving fast. Nevertheless, I’m back and won’t be breaking away like that again. Thank you for waiting for me and understanding, it means alot. While I was away, a lot has happened-I completed my book, the Cowboys are on fire, and we have a new president-elect. That’s just to name a few things. So, let’s start from the beginning, shall we?

You Are What You Eat

How many of you remember hearing that saying, as a child? In recent years, companies have been intentionally more literal with that saying.  I remember seeing a commercial with a group of children on a soccer field, and one being particularly sluggish. They then featured a kid smiling and full of energy, running all over the field effortlessly. The next time you see the sluggish kid, they had literally turned into a box of french fries! All of this was to entice you to buy a protein shake for your children-of course, after the insinuation was made. This protein shake alleged to have all the nutrients and things kids were missing. Was this too much, too extreme,  too far reaching- or were they  on the right track? Do you believe you are what you eat? I happen to believe so.

Last week, I started listening to Joel Osteen regularly and he had a sermon on this very topic. In fact, it’s where the inspiration for this post comes.  He mentioned that we have ear and eye gates and that what we see and hear qualifies as what you eat. He told a story about a conversation he and his friend had. Interestingly enough, his friend’s perspective is much like most people today. There are countless shows that promote non-wholesome behavior and content. You know, shows people are crazy about and hooked on-Scandal, Power, Empire, Being Mary Jane etc. The list goes on and on. Joel’s friend was trying to get him to understand that if you look past all sorts of things ( like profanity, adultery, lying, etc.)that it’s really a good show.

I loved Joel’s response because it was funny and also true. He told his friend, “I could go dig in the dumpster and find a peice of halway edible biscuit, but that doesn’t mean I’d eat it because you don’t eat out of the trash”. Don’t ho looking in the trash for nourishment. Trash can’t make you full, it can only make you sick-so don’t go there looking for anything lasting. Let’s face it, if you watch one of the aforementioned shows, the drama’ll get past a few days, but then you can hardly wait for the next episode. To fill up on trash again. Don’t go eating out the the trash. I’ll be honest, I used to watch Empire faithfully, when it first came out. But then I changed my appetite. I could no longer stomach the profanity, murders, lies, schemes, treachery, etc. I’m so glad I did. I changed my mind and renew my mind daildaily. I diligently guard my ear and eye gates. I am conscious of what I before me to feed off of and I suggest you do the same. Have an amazing day!

A Call To Order

My life has always been hectic and loud. To be honest, I grew up in dysfunction and it used to be my normal. One really never knows how out of order they are until they get on the road to order. Recently, my life has taken a massive turn. I’ve gone from broken to blessed, hurt to healed,disorderly to “in order.” I can’t believe I’ve lived my life without it. I’m getting to the point in my life where “there’s a place for everything and where everything’s in it’s place.” I never realized how much living in disorder was costing me.

It has cost me a great deal. It’s cost me my peace, some strength, energy, time, etc. However, the greatest of the things it’s cost me was my time. I believe time is the most valuable resource we have available to us.  We don’t know how much we’ll get in or lifetimes or if there will be a tomorrow to afford us anymore. Can you relate to my struggle with order? Well it reminds me of a story in the bible about ten virgins. You see, there were ten virgins and they were all waiting on their bridegroom (husbands).

The bridegroom (husbands) were on the way. These virgins fit in one of two categories-wise and foolish. Coincidentally, it was an even mash up-five wise, five foolish. In the wait, I’m guessing the “foolish of them all” got weary in well doing. They got a little antsy and decided to go exploring. You see the problem was that they only had so much oil to light their candles and illuminate their paths, for when their bridegroom arrived. Five of these virgins become so engrossed with the wait that they neglected to prepare. The “wise ones” knew that the wait may be long and realized they should bring extra oil, just in case.

There’s an old adage that says “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” These virgins surely found the truth in these words. I have also found this to be true many times over. Because of these virgins were so ill-prepared, when the bridegroom shows up, they missed out and were shut out. Why? They didn’t have any oil remaining, meaning they couldn’t see the path clearly and ended up in darkness. Now the cool thing I love about the bible is that it tells stories in these parables that we can use everyday. I believe the take-away points are some of the following things.

We all are a representative of these virgins-in that we have a bridegroom (Jesus) coming back to receive us and we have work to do in the wait. We also need the light of the word of God to illuminate our paths. If we likewise mishandle this amazing opportunity to be found being about our father’s business, we will end up shut out in utter darkness. I love everyone and don’t want so much as one single soul to be lost, so consider this my official call to order.  To everyone out there great and small, you have work to do. We all have a destiny and purpose that must be fulfilled by us and us alone. My destiny is mine-your destiny is yours. We must be in order, we must plan, and we must be in alignment with God. He created each and everyone of us for greatness and dealt to each of us a measure of faith. So, with that, I’ll say this-I call forth all the labourors, interceeders, teachers, preachers, and all-around children of God. The time is now-the bridegroom is on the way and will be arriving soon. Let’s get up, get out, and get in order.

“Who’s Your Daddy?”

This phrase is often used when a man does what I call a “daddy-thing” that no one can do and then feels a little proud. It’s a showing of excitement for the accomplishment just achieved. It’s a stamp showing he’s happy and proud of the position he holds-daddy.  While we have Earthly father’s who are great, there is likewise a heavenly Father we have that is amazing. He is a father to the fatherless. So, before I go any further, I’d like to acknowledge the best father of all time-God. He is Alpha and Omega-the beginning and the end. He is all knowing, all seeing, omnipresent-everywhere at the same time. He is the creator of the universe, space, time, you, me, and everything we see, hear, and feel.

He is a lawyer in the courtroom, doctor in the sick room, mender of broken hearts, wiper of tears, lifter of heads, and the lover of my soul. He is everything to me and I love him so. He is an amazing teacher, friend, coach, leader, guide, and help in time of trouble. Not only that, he is a father who gave THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE; His ONLY begotten son, Jesus. Could you imagine doing that? Let me just be transparent and say I couldn’t and I have two sons. BUT GOD, did it-without murmuring or complaining-HE DID IT. So, it is with a grateful heart that I say on today, Father’s day, “who’s  your daddy?” God did that and so many other amazing things for us. Like giving us earthly fathers to be birthed through.

On today, I’d like to ask that you spend time with your father and celebrate him-for all the things He’s done for you. But not only that,  celebrate Him for who He is. You don’t know all he’s had to endure-just for you to be okay. So in honor of daddys everywhere, let today be a day of connection. Link up with your fathers. Go to church, shoot him a text, call him, or stop by his house to just say, “hi and I love you”. Or better yet, “thank you”. You may not even know what that thank you is for, but to him, that “thank you” could be EVERYTHING. There may be something he had to endure that was painful, just for you to be okay and have clothes and shoes daily. You may never know what it is, but be obedient anyway. He may never say what it is/was, but he wants to feel loved, respected, and appreciated. He wants to hear from you. So let him. The same is true with God. He wants to hear from you-He wants you to love, respect, and appreciate Him too. So get to it and again Happy Father’s Day to all fathers out there. By the way, “who’s your daddy?”

What Are You Waiting For?

As the saying goes, if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything”.  I’d like to pose a question…what are you standing for today or better yet, what have you fallen for? Standing for something takes a great amount of courage, discipline, and tenacity. You have to be will to be persecuted without a cause, hated, and talked about-all at the whim of people. What people don’t understand, they criticize. It’s kind of like when a guy tries to pursue a young lady who’s uninterested. Totally shocked and stunned at the rejection, he begins to call the young lady names. In an effort to embarrass her, he makes himself look foolish. Or if a girl is interested in a guy who’s uninterested-then she calls him gay. Both of these examples are common  and are good examples of people being unable to handle rejection.

Society tells and shows us that casual sex is the thing to do. Fornication is worshipped and highly lifted up nowadays. Look at all the shows and movies out here-Empire, Being Mary Jane, and Scandal-just to name a few. They praise being “the other woman” or “side chick”, as if that’s an honorable position. There is no honor in being good enough for a man to lay down with you, have his way, and then act like he doesn’t know you in public. If you’re only good enough to lay down with, you need to go check your price tag-because you have grossly marked your self down. Each and every one of us has a price tag.

This price tag was created and strategically placed by our mighty creator. The price tag is not to be tampered with-even though we sometimes change it-only to have our hearts broken later because of it. So, let me ask you another question….is your God-ordained husband or wife worth the wait? Or are you good with settling for Mr. and Mrs. Wrong and Right Now? I don’t know about you, but my God-ordained husband is well worth the wait and the most blessed man alive! Why? Because he was made for the precious jewel that is me-and I for him. I truly believe that  about me and I believe that each and every one of you have God-ordained spouses on their way to you right now, as we speak.  That being said, we have got to be ready and be in place to be found.

We must have our lives together and our business in order. We can’t be going through our days aimlessly spending our time doing things that are of no importance to our destiny and purpose. Rather, we must invest our time in coming closer to our destiny each and every day. We must dream, plan, and then strategize to make our plans come to fruition.  Write your visions and make them plain. Put them in a very visible place. Each and everyday work toward your goals, dreams, and aspirations. Search your soul, get to know you, and ask God to reveal to you who you are in Him. You must know who you are, because when you and your God-ordained spouse meet and marry-the two of you will become one, to further advance the kingdom of God. Not only that, wives are to be helpmates to their husbands.  Well, you can’t help your husband if you are still trying to figure out who you really are. So do the work before they get to you. Date yourself, enjoy yourself, love yourself, and treat yourself like the king/queen you are. No one will treat you like royalty if you don’t know you are and that you were destined to wear a crown.

So what are you waiting for? If you were waiting on someone to encourage you to change your life today-then this is your day. If you happen to be out of sync with God, know that he loves you. Jeremiah 29:11 promises, “I know the plans that I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and  a future (expected end).” We must present our bodies as living sacrifices unto God-holy, acceptable, and undefiled. Sex was intended for marriage-and not just for people we casually meet. And that is for a reason-the emotions that come with it are heavy. And I don’t care what anyone says, it is always more than just physical. It is also a spiritual experience. It is supposed to be the ultimate expression of love, when a husband makes love to his wife. Not like how it’s portrayed or glorified on television nowadays with random strangers. Wives are supposed to submit themselves to their own husbands. That being said, you have no business in the arms, laps, or beds of another woman’s husband. Especially if you ever hope to be someone’s wife someday-because you reap what you sow. What are you waiting for? There’s so  much work to do in so little time-let’s get to it. Have an amazing day!

DO NOT FAINT!

An everyday goal of mine is to learn something new-I also am teaching my children this as well. And each day, I really do. It varies from fun facts to deep personal truths. Today though, I learned of a former killing tactic and it got me to thinking.  I’m sure that after reading that last sentence, you are too. You’re probably wondering what I’m talking about, huh? Some people see the world as black and white-here and now, with no life or consequence after death. I, onthe other hand, see the world in a different way. I see it as natural and spiritual. I realize and understand that we’re all tripods. By that, I mean we all have souls and spirits, housed in these bodies of ours. I heard someone say on the radio that they heard a story about how Eskimos killed wolves. I thought, “okay- this should be interesting.” And it truly was. Well, it turns out that the Eskimo has a process in which he coats a knife with animal’s blood, then freezes,  and repeats these steps. After a while, this blood coated knife becomes thick-like that of a popsicle.

The Eskimo does this because he knows the wolf has a nose that is keen on smelling things-especially animal’s blood. The Eskimo then places the knife in the snow-blade side down, of course. Like a moth to a flame, the wolf is drawn to the knife and the blood. The wolf licks it and tastes the blood and begins to lick it more vigorously. The more he licks it, the more the blood quenches his insatiable hunger. It is totally unaware that the blood it so longs for will soon be that of it’s own.  What started out as pleasurable and delightful will soon end up piercing, painful, and lead to certain death.  By the morning, the wolf will have bled out. Surely if it  would have known, he wouldn’t have licked so far down that the blade began to cut him-or would he? This made me think about the precious people of God and how the enemy (Satan) tricks them. This particularly happens to the women of God more than anyone else. It’s not that these women are unintelligent, undesirable, unattractive, or even unfocused. It’s happened to the best of us.

The truth is, they simply fainted.  In the King James Version, Galatians 6:9 teaches- “And let us not be weary in well doing, for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”  Let me ask you a serious question, have you fainted or are you fainting? If so, please reassess the situation and change your mind-it’s not too late. The mistake these wonderful ladies make is they grow weary in well doing and faint in the process. They all start out really well and strong, then time begins to pass. The more time passes, the more gradually they began to grow weary. Up to this point, they haven’t fainted. Then the enemy (Satan) starts to devise and employ a plan to devour them. They soon meet a nice man who seems to be next to everything they were believing God for. The thing is though, Satan will always distort the truth (God’s word). He doesn’t send them a straight lie, he’ll send a well disguised, smoothed-talking lie, with a hint of truth there.

Growing weary, her defenses are down, so she entertains him (knowing she shouldn’t). Why? She’s fainting. This will lead to a process of dates, phone calls, disappointments, and fornication. Which then will lead you into a whole different type of process. Although it hurts, here’s the cool thing-we get to pick our process. LISTEN, process is a part of life and if you want to achieve anything-YOU WILL GO THROUGH A PROCESS! We can’t skip steps and expect our blessings to both last as long as and have the foundation as someone who endured the process. I’m not going to lie to you-the process hurts and it is frustrating. It makes you want to scream, and sometimes you may actually have to.  It will absolutely make you want to faint about 92.8% of the time-but the thing is my dears, YOU CAN’T DO IT. There is absolutely no one who is worth missing God, or your God-given destiny and purpose for. No one is worth forfeiting Heaven and your Almighty creator over. Is there anyone you will be willing to stand before God on Judgement Day and say they were the reason you didn’t become all He created you to be and do? If the answer to that question is “no”, let this be a  transparent and good place to do a real heart check.

Maybe you have been fainting and haven’t even been realizing it. Maybe you are aware of it and just can’t seem to let go of the desires of the flesh in your own strength. This is how you’ll know you’ve fainted or are fainting. You will find yourself compromising more and more on things you said or thought you’d never do. You may have a desire to serve and please God, yet you keep going back to that “thing” you can’t shake in your own strength. You may also try to manipulate people and things to work in your favor-in order to what you want to do. Example: “God knows my heart”  But does He have your heart? FYI, THAT “THING” CAN BE ANYTHING. It can be lying, cheating, adultery, fornication, that bad relationship, that crazy person that you love so much, etc. The truth is we all have a thing we fight against. But the important question I want to pose is, are you fighting or are you fainting?  You don’t have to even answer out loud, but you do have to answer-not to or for me though, it’s for you. Again I will say and I hope you receive this, there is no one worth missing God and your God-ordained destiny and purpose for.  Jesus came that we may have life and life more abundantly. Abundant life doesn’t consist of fainting.  Because the scripture says, “for in due season, we shall reap-if we faint not.  Check your heart and please don’t faint. I beg you. You are worthy of all the goodness God has in store for you and you deserve every last blessing awaiting you. Now, it’s time to get it right. Be blessed.  I love you all.

Just Do It

To all my faithful readers, I apologize for the absence and break between posts. I was previously working diligently to complete an assignment. As I sit here, I am now an official author. Although, I prefer to call myself a writer. There’s a difference between the two, you know. An author writes a book or books, a writer writes period. Be it books, music, articles, songs, etc. So I most identify with being a writer. On Thursday night, about 10:30 PM, I finished my first book. I pushed that baby out. I am so proud of myself and it feels so surreal to say “I just completed a book I wrote”. God trusted me with this assignment and I am so honored. I fully intend to put my best foot forward in everything I do and will give God the glory for it all.

I want to talk to you today though, about you. How are you treating and celebrating yourself? When was the last time you stopped and celebrated a victory you won? I ask because if you’re anything like me, you are so busy trying to get a task completed, you sort of forget to celebrate the victory won. I had to keep reminding myself on Friday to get a cupcake or something sweet, to celebrate. I called it my celebratory ice cream. You have to stop and celebrate the victories won and accomplishments made, over time. So as not to get into a habit of warring to victory, with no time in between for jubilation.

A reason I’m so excited about writing the book is because for the first time in  a long time I completed something I started. The interesting thing is though, I didn’t even realize that I’d gotten into a pattern of not finishing things. That just goes to show you how quickly something small can become something big, if unnoticed. I give God the glory for me completing the books and my prayer is that it will be a catalyst for great change, transformation, and inspiration in people’s lives. I believe that there is something in the book for everyone and that it is an excellent read. I’m not just saying that because I wrote it either.

I want you to know we are who God says we are, we can have what God says we can have, and we can do what God says we can do. So what do you want to have and do? What are your dreams, goals, aspirations? What do you want to be when you grow up? Most all of us haven’t even heard of raised that question since we were kids. That is, for me, until I saw a commercial with a celebrity asking everyone what they wanted to be when they grew up.

The jist of it was to say we are all still growing and evolving. Initially, everyone seemed to be so stunned,  and then they explained what they wanted to be. The answers were vast and varied from opera singer to women’s football coach. My question is though, at what point do we stop dreaming? At what point do we put away such “childish things”? At what point do we view them as “childish things”?

Is it at the introduction of families, bills, and responsibilities? Or maybe it’s jobs, careers, and educations? Perhaps it could be when it seems like you’ll never reach the goal you’ve set for yourself. Or even countless rejections for things you were excited about. No matter what made us reach this point, the truth is we arrived there-at some point in our lives.

Now, let me take this time to encourage you to keep moving forward and dreaming. No matter how long it takes you, don’t give up on your dreams. I never thought I’d be an author or writer. I am in awe of the opportunity that lays at my feet. And it is all because I stepped outside of myself and dared to dream big.

If your dream is to be a world-renowned chef or to have a food truck, jump out and do it. Sure you may fail at first or at least once; but it’d pale in comparison to being on your death bed wishing you went after it. Failure is a part of success. It is because of one (failure), that you can so heavily enjoy the other (success).

There’s something about falling and getting back up again that’s empowering. No matter what is behind you, it is there for a reason. So if it is behind you, it did not overcome or overtake you. So stand up, dream big, make a plan, and just do it! Be encouraged and keep moving forward.

 

 

 

You’ve All You Need

This is one of my favorite poems and I’d like to share it. Poetry and music get my creative juices flowing. For those of you of kindred spirits, this one’s for you. I was first introduced to this poem at church. So please enjoy it and give it some thought.

Equipment

by Edgar A. Guest

Figure it out for yourself, my lad

You’ve all that the greatest of men have had

Two arms, two hands, two legs, two eyes

And a brain to use if you would be wise

With this equipment they all began

So start from the top and say, ‘I can”

Look them over, the wise and great

They take their food from a common plate

And similar knives and forks they use

With similar laces they tie their shoes

The world considers them brave and smart

But you’ve all they had when they made their start

You can triumph and come to skill

You can be great if you only will

You’re well equipped for what fight you choose

You have legs and arms and a brain to use

And the man who has risen great deeds to do

Began his life with no more than you

You are the handicap you must face

You are the one who must choose your place

You must say where you want to go

How much you will study the truth to know

God has equipped you for life, but He

Let’s you decide what you want to be

Courage must come from the soul within

The man must furnish the will to win

So figure it out for yourself, my lad

You were born with all that the great have had

With your equipment they all began,

Get hold of yourself and say: ‘I can’

A reason I really love this poem is because I believe it. I believe at the beginning of life, we are all the same. We were all born with two eyes, two legs, two hands, two arms. For centuries, people have tried to figure out what makes other people genius’ and seem superior. I watched a documentary where they were trying to study Albert Einstein’s brain to see what made him so different-so supremely intelligent. Some believe he had a much larger brain than the rest of us. Others believe certain parts of his brain functioned at a higher level than his counterparts. One thing though, it’s clear that Einstein was a genius. He formulated the theory of relativity-you know, E=mc(2) or squared. Energy=mass x the speed of light (squared). Things like this are what kept people engrossed and fascinated with Einstein, even past the point of death. Lots of people wanted to get their hands on his brain- to study it. Can you imagine that? Studying the brains of one of the “greatest thinkers to ever live?”

I believe what set Einstein apart was his refusal to give up and accept defeat. You will win, if you don’t quit. Think about it, the most famous picture of Einstein is one where he’s sticking out his tongue. In this picture, he appears to be about eighty or possibly a little older. I said that to say, don’t give up if things get challenging. If Einstein had quit, would we have the theory of relativity? Would we have really cool educational cartoons like Little Einsteins? My kids love that show. The answer is no- no we wouldn’t have those things. Well, how much more can be said about you and I? What are we holding in that could greatly affect change on the world? We mustn’t keep those talents and gifts buried inside of us. We must let them out and allow God the free range for the things to be used.

I’d like to share this quote with you, it is coincidently from Albert Einstein.

Everybody’s a genius. But if you judge a fish by it’s ability to climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life believing that it is stupid.

iaI think this is an amazing quote, especially in terms of special needs children. I have a special needs child and people just don’t understand that all children are different. That is an area where the differences are very vast and broad.  Some people think that just because one child can do something, if another can’t-they are in diar need of intervention. Well we, much like special needs children, progress and advance at different levels and speeds. There is no wrong way to move forward-well, except not moving at all.  Always remember that a journey of 1,000 miles begins with one step. So, walk it out-you will win if you don’t quit. God loves you, be encouraged, you are enough.

HELP WANTED

When you are in need of a job, a sign like this is considered a godsend. Only the strong survive this one.

JOB DESCRIPTION

Long term team players needed for challenging permanent work in an often chaotic environment. Candidates must possess excellent communication and organizational skills and be willing to work various hours, which will include evenings and weekends, and frequent 24 hour shifts, on call. Some overnight travel required, including trips to primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports tournaments in faraway cities. Travel expenses NOT reimbursed.

RESPONSIBILITIES

THIS IS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Must be willing to hated, at least temporarily, until someone needs $5 to go skating. Must be willing to bite tongue repeatedly. Also, must have physical stamina of a pack mule-because you’ll be carrying their stuff and your own. Must be able to go from zero to 60 mph in three seconds flat-in case, this time, the screams from the backyard are not someone just crying wolf.

Must be willing to face simulating technical challenges, such as small gadget repair, mysteriously sluggish toilets, and stuck zippers. Must screen phone calls, maintain calenders, and coordinate production of multiple homework projects. Must have ability to plan and organize social gatherings for clients of all ages and mental outlooks.

Must be willing to be indispensable one minute, and an embarrassment the next. Must handle assembly and product safety testing of a half million cheap, plastic toys and battery operated devices.

Must always hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. Must assume final, complete accountability for the quality of the end product of the family.

Responsibilities also include floor maintainance  and  janitorial work throughout the facility.

POSSIBILITIES FOR ADVANCEMENT AND PROMOTION

Your job is to remain in the same position for years, WITHOUT COMPLAINING,- constantly retaining and upgrading your skills, so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you.

PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE

No prior experience is required.  On-the-job training offered on a continual exhausting basis.

WAGES AND COMPENSATION

YOU PAY THEM!- Offering frequent raises and bonuses. A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because of the assumption that college will help them become financially independent. When you die, you give them whatever is left.

*The oddest thing about this reverse-salary scheme is that you actually enjoy it and wish you could only do more.*

BENEFITS

Job supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth and free hugs and kisses for life-if you pay your cards right.

*Added Bonus–future opportunity for the title “Grandma.”

 

 

Any takers…….still interested? Let this be some foreshadowing to all the young ladies out there hash tagging baby fever. Being a mother is serious business and a big job. It’s not something you choose to do to have “a cute little accessory” (your baby). It’s also not as glamorous as some women imagine. It gets ugly, at times,-you will eventually be peed, pooped, and vomited on. But the truth is, it all comes with the territory. So check your heart and evaluate the real reason you want children, if you don’t have them. This most certainly is not the job for the faint at heart and this is not a quitting man’s game. If you are selfish or spoiled, please reconsider-you will officially be number 2. Now while there are drawbacks, this is the greatest, most fulfilling, most challenging job ever. I love my life and kids and wouldn’t trade either of them for anything. That being said, “would you be willing to take this position?

Many Are Called, Few Are Chosen-It Takes A Special Heart

I am a very creative person and love creating things. I love music,poetry,etc. I would like to share one of my favorite poems with you.

The Special Mother

by Erma Bombeck

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit.

This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?

Somehow I visualize God hovering over the Earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.

“Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint…give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity.”

“Rutledge, Carrie; twins. Patron saint…Matthew.”

Finally  He passes a name to an angel and smiles, “Give her a handicapped child.”

The angel is curious. “Why this one God? She’s so happy.”

“Exactly,” smiles God, “could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.”

“But has she the patience?” asks the angel.

“I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she’ll handle it.”

“I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, I’m going to give her a child who has her own world. She has to make her live in her world and that’s not going to be easy.”

“But Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you. God smiles, “No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect-she has just enough selfishness.”

The angel gasps-“Selfishness? Is that a virtue?”

God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive. Yes, here is  a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never consider a “step” ordinary. When her child says ‘Momma’ for the first time, she will be present at a miracle, and will know it!”

“I will permit her to see clearly the things I see…ignorance, cruelty, prejudice…and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing My work as surely as if she is here by My side.”

“And what about her patron saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.

God smiles, “A mirror will suffice.”

 One of the reasons this is a favorite poem of mine is because it’s about me. I possess the special heart it requires to daily care for one of God’s angels. He hand picked me and I feel honored. It’s not always easy and sometimes I have to cry, but I never doubt for one second, that He is right here with me and my family. If you are part of this chosen group of people, be proud and know we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. Everything will be okay. Please always remember God loves you and  I do too. Have an amazing day!